Is it hope or the most unrealistic illusion?

Is there anything called the Perfect Ideal Man? And is every woman’s expectation of accidentally yet pleasantly bumping into this Perfection justified? If you tell me you haven’t given this thought, you’re definitely lying. Every person likes their bed made in a certain way, their coffee just that perfect flavor and tinge. And their man, with all the finishings of the picture in their head.

Well, unfortunately most often and almost always, this picture remains in the head. It never translates into reality unless you’ve prayed really hard or you just got plain lucky in which case you become the victim of less fortunate fellow-love travelers. Most often when you go looking for trouble, you’ll end up finding it. Ever wondered why such un-fortunate luck doesn’t work in the case of a partner? The few twisted injustices of life.

Women live in an illusion. In a utopia where everything’s just perfect and sun-kissed, their man is baked to perfection with the right look, talk, walk and touch. They escape into this little world of theirs when the cruel real world becomes too harsh for their tastes. They hope and hope against hope that this halcyon they have created in their mind remains uncrushed, untouched by the blows of truth.

It’s safer to realize the boundaries of this strange little world than to be stuck in it and refuse to realize the potent dangers of becoming a recluse. It’s alright to escape into it once in awhile, I mean who doesn’t dream? But it’s just for your good you realize that you weren’t created to live in that perfect world of your concocted tastes.

Perhaps God created the world so imperfect so that we realize the value of something good when it meets the eye. How would you feel if you found a diamond in a heap of rubble? So stop looking for perfection in this cynical world. If you’re lucky, it’ll walk its way into your life and set right everything that’s crooked in your life. If it doesn’t walk into your life what can I say? Perhaps, your vision of perfection out beat God’ best effort. So dream of the stars but learn to settle for the moon. It’s definitely better than some of the earthly creatures.

Can a man change a friendship?

It’s true that when two women discuss their lives and complain about the sorrows of singleness, they look for emotional comfort in each other. They expect each other to be there every time some strange incident reminds them of the perceived unfortunate single state they are in. These women look for their men in the world and sympathy in each other. But what happens when they find that Mr. Perfect?

This is when they drift apart from everything and everyone that reminds them of their historical misery. The friend they looked to for comfort becomes an outlet for their unbound joy their love brought into their life. They wouldn’t care if that girl-friend were single, pathetic or lonely. This is truly the defeat of a friendship. A friendship that is built on trust, faith, pacification and companionship.

Sometimes, people forget that though they are in love, the rest of the world isn’t. Their friends and the people in their life are genuinely happy for their treasure but they do resent the fact that they’ve lost the person they became friends with. In love people do generally invest most of their valuable time cementing their relationship by modifying their tastes to suit each other. They forget however, that they end up in a character metamorphosis at times and the people who once cared might not ‘love’ this.

The friend with whom you shared the smallest of details of your regular mundane life in addition to anything that brought a spark to your day might not know anything about your day now. How would it feel knowing that someone who told you which side of the bed they got up on or what flavor of ice-cream they ate didn’t share something of much greater proportions with you? It’s a painful experience to have to share your time, your space, your right and your friend with another person.

The best of friendships disintegrate by one blow, one person, and one new relationship. Is it all worth it?

What if it wasn’t? If this new found love can walk into your life like a hurricane and turn things upside down, it can leave like a devastating storm too. Every true relationship you give up because of your love won’t curse you or wait for your love to leave but will leave broken and hurt. While you won’t be present to see that pain ease, that person will move on with their life hoping that you stay happily ever after. What if you don’t? Do you expect to find comfort in those same arms? Do you expect that friend to wipe your tears when they’ve learnt how to wipe their tears alone, thanks to you?

You need to know where you’re going but you can’t afford to forget where you came from. You need to draw your own boundaries and learn the importance of each relationship. And don’t ever be selfish enough to hurt a heart that cares for you and wants the best for you at the cost of few fleeting moments of joy. Then alone will love conquer and so will the friendship that was born long before love made its stride.