It’s true that when two women discuss their lives and
complain about the sorrows of singleness, they look for emotional comfort in
each other. They expect each other to be there every time some strange incident
reminds them of the perceived unfortunate single state they are in. These women
look for their men in the world and sympathy in each other. But what happens
when they find that Mr. Perfect?
This is when they drift apart from everything and everyone
that reminds them of their historical misery. The friend they looked to for
comfort becomes an outlet for their unbound joy their love brought into their
life. They wouldn’t care if that girl-friend were single, pathetic or lonely.
This is truly the defeat of a friendship. A friendship that is built on trust,
faith, pacification and companionship.
Sometimes, people forget that though they are in love, the
rest of the world isn’t. Their friends and the people in their life are
genuinely happy for their treasure but they do resent the fact that they’ve
lost the person they became friends with. In love people do generally invest
most of their valuable time cementing their relationship by modifying their
tastes to suit each other. They forget however, that they end up in a character
metamorphosis at times and the people who once cared might not ‘love’ this.
The friend with whom you shared the smallest of details of
your regular mundane life in addition to anything that brought a spark to your
day might not know anything about your day now. How would it feel knowing that
someone who told you which side of the bed they got up on or what flavor of
ice-cream they ate didn’t share something of much greater proportions with you?
It’s a painful experience to have to share your time, your space, your right
and your friend with another person.
The best of friendships disintegrate by one blow, one
person, and one new relationship. Is it all worth it?
What if it wasn’t? If this new found love can walk into your
life like a hurricane and turn things upside down, it can leave like a
devastating storm too. Every true relationship you give up because of your love
won’t curse you or wait for your love to leave but will leave broken and hurt.
While you won’t be present to see that pain ease, that person will move on with
their life hoping that you stay happily ever after. What if you don’t? Do you
expect to find comfort in those same arms? Do you expect that friend to wipe your
tears when they’ve learnt how to wipe their tears alone, thanks to you?
You need to know where you’re going but you can’t afford to
forget where you came from. You need to draw your own boundaries and learn the
importance of each relationship. And don’t ever be selfish enough to hurt a
heart that cares for you and wants the best for you at the cost of few fleeting
moments of joy. Then alone will love conquer and so will the friendship that
was born long before love made its stride.
